Click here to learn more about the Terms & Conditions for membership within my “Mastering Emotions” program and Online Private Community. Same bitter thoughts come. But when we discussed past things, she again started blaming me and dint behave in a good way. (See Ephesians 4:32.). I have forgiven those who have hurt me so that I can move on with my life but it is like each time I am on the internet, its like I am constantly being reminded of what they have done to me in the past. Or it could be that her behavior is linked to something that needs to be healed within her. Why does God allow suffering to continue? What started out as a Three-Personed holy hug of the Father, Son and Spirit loving each other while still remaining one God, will be a hugely enlarged circle of love that includes millions, possibly billions of people God made in His image, marked “Mine,” and drew into the divine circle to love and be loved forever. As you’re praying, ask God what in you needs to be healed that is contributing to this being a sore spot in you. I had tried to forget and forgive all those things. See comments below for more clarification on this. I may get a small commission on purchases made on some of them (e.g., Amazon). So pictures of her in a tiny little yellow bikini that leaves NOTHING to the imagination, front and back views. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that this world plagued by pain and disease, deliberate meanness and selfishness, is not God’s original perfect creation. How you use what is provided here is at your own risk. Hi Vandy, I keep forgiving him but it seems to me that he sees my forgiveness as a way to keep doing what he’s doing. But instead of teaching their boys to respect women as a whole person and a fellow child of God, they were just taught to never get caught looking. Also, thanks so much for your question. The real question is, "Why did God create the human body with the potential to get sick in the first place?" So what do we pray? It hurts to stand, it hurts to walk. God allows pain and suffering and evil because He has a plan, and He’s working His plan. She has a freelance calligraphy business in her home studio; hand lettering was her "Proverbs 31 job" while her children were young. 1:4-5) and creating a Bride for His eternal Son (Rev. God knew all this, and He created us anyway. I understand noticing beautiful women and having a passing thought about her. But I fear this behavior is a precursor to cheating and I don’t know what would’ve happened had I not found out. You know im such a decent person i cant seem to think anything wrong with me yet i still get hurt in life? So even the attacks of Satan, although evil, can and will have a "good" result, ultimately, as God uses them to conform us to Christ, His Son (see Romans 8:29). It means you will once again have to check your heart to make sure the emotional debt owed you is ultimately settled with that person by God. We’ll look at this in my next post. It can break down at any point along the way. Please don’t beat yourself up for how you feel about this. Why does god let people who have made other people suffer and feel unhappy just get away with life. I pray it stays there better. Every single step. Here’s how to forgive someone who has hurt you emotionally. Perhaps that starts with what you define as forgiveness. First of all, let’s be clear, it is tough to forgive when someone keeps hurting you. If it were, God would indeed be a horrible monster. How can you forgive an adult child who continues to use drugs and steal from you? I truly just want to be free from the hurt and pain and that people will just allow and accept that I have forgiven them from the pain they have caused me and just simply leave me alone and not bother me. I don’t know how to forgive these people, or how to not feel vengeful or hope that something terrible happens to them or to one of their loved ones so that they finally “get” it. Your past patterns of dealing with being hurt are not those you want to continue. We may question why God will allow a perfect man or woman to walk out of our lives, but God knows us and will only allow things to happen in our lives that are in accordance with his plan. I am glad to report that both my pain and weakness have eased as the week as unfolded. There is no divine “Bibbity-Bobbity-Boo.”. In order for us to choose to return His love, we needed to be free to choose NOT to love Him. Thank you for another one of these. You just need to be patient. Eventually, totally worn out, I asked God why He kept allowing this relationship to hurt me so much. This means that God knows what it means to suffer. You’re sick, you’re dying, you’ve been deserted, you’ve lost a child, you’re innocent but accused of wrongdoing — and they try to shush you. I can’t accept that such girl will be getting married to my cousin and be part of our family. Where Adam disobeyed the Father, Jesus learned obedience through suffering (Heb. I’m not saying you have to be besties, but forgiveness is key. Before we continue to discuss candy – none of. There is no pain, no suffering we can endure, that God Himself did not experience even more during Jesus’ time on earth. Paul went to Macedonia saying, “God had called us to preach the gospel (in Macedonia).” (Act 16:10) A question to ask yourself is whether you could say to God, “Well, you have to forgive me (regardless of my repentance and turning from my sin) because you are a loving God.”. Of porn as well happy ending to what is not a fairy tale here: https //net.bible.org/... S be clear, it is some type of addiction as well pain as His instrument shape! 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